HUSBAND SCARCITY IN 9JA!
This may not be the best time
for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer
resist the push.
"Husband Scarcity" has
become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today.
If you go to prayer houses,
majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for
concern.
Casting our minds back to the
time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband
Scarcity" problem?
Or, maybe there were more men
than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both
genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared
to build a home and not park into a built home.
Then, once a young man comes of
age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife
and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I
really trying to say?
We created what we now see as
"Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask
an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has
to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be
presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to
sound so worldly.
Then, check the number of girls
around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the
problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and
then go and start suffering with a man."
What a wonderful dream! What if
from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and
later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you
run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end
big, than start big and end small.
The problem is that the
description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same.
When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is
just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others?
They simply start lamenting of
"Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due
to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses
all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet
fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all
those searching for already made husbands.
If you look around, majority of
the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a
home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband
scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who
a husband is.
A husband is that man God made
and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for
making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he
felt complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It
is a mission of building the family of God here on earth.
For those who see marriage as a
way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME
WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may
only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow.
Another truth is that YOU MAY BE
THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband
scarcity".
PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am
not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of
marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you
should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical
appearances. Look beyond the physical.
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS
NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE OF.
And that which he is made of is,
most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen.
Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is
not seen is permanent.
May the Good God choose for you
all(Amen).
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