5 WAYS TO HAVE AN INCREDIBLE FIRST DATE WITH A NIGERIAN GUY

This is a sum up from a woman called Lola experiences

Show up as yourself.

At first, Lola tried to determine what a guy wanted and conform to that. Once that tactic wasn't successful, she reevaluated and discovered the benefits of being authentic. "It's exhausting to try to figure out what someone wants instead of being yourself, and really, you don't need to be a fit for everybody," she says.

Ask the simplest question in the world.

"Something like, 'Hey, how are you doing?' or 'How was your weekend?' immediately gave the date a sense of familiarity and made the guys feel more at home with me," says Lola "It was an organic way to make things feel more natural, probably because it helped show that I was looking at them as people instead of just trying to get the right answers out of them."

Play things a little close to the vest.

It's always good to be upfront about what you want, but that doesn't mean you have to get elaborate on the first date. "I would share my hopes and dreams about future relationships," says Mary. "I realized starting with the end game in mind on a first date with a total stranger can be too much." It's not about playing hard to get or trying to be something you're not, but about taking things at a pace that really allows you to see if you're a fit for each other.

Save the complaining for later.

Even if the traffic was a beast and your egomaniac sister is acting up again, being overly negative on a first date can do more harm than good. "A first date is really a meet and greet," says Lola. "Of course you don't want to hide who you are, but being your authentic self with a positive spin will serve you better than going down a negative road with a total stranger."

Get them to share what they're good at.

This especially comes in handy if you want to see if there's a spark. "I'd say something like, 'You were talking about how you're really great at guitar,' then have them explain how they got to be so good at it," she says. When most people talk about something they're skilled at, they turn into the most attractive versions of themselves—better posture, radiant confidence, twinkling eyes. If you weren't 100 percent sure about the attraction but feel a stomach swoop when that happens, there may be something there worth exploring.